The Taynors

The Taynors

Thursday, June 22, 2017

Random Taynor Family Updates

Its officially Baby Watch 2017.  Baby Taynor should be making his appearance any day now, so I am trying to fill my days keeping busy, with the occasional rest, so I don't get to stir crazy.  What a perfect time to blog about some of the random things going on in our family.

- Yesterday was Ryan's last day of Kindergarten.  I can't believe how fast that went by AND how great of a year it was for him.  I was filled with anxiety about how the year would go.  Would he make friends, would he be able to handle the full day schedule, would the teacher get frustrated with him and his lack of ability to focus and concentrate??  Would he love going to school or would it be torture?  Well as many people assured me, everything ended up being just fine.  He had a teacher that totally understood his personality and loved that even though he could be a bit distracted and anxious, he was a "really great kid".  He made plenty of friends, and he really loved getting on the bus each morning.  Academically he did pretty well.  Not top of the class, but definitely did not struggle.  He learned so much in school, and as I knew he would he continued to learn and pursue all of his passions outside of the classroom (sea creatures, dinosaurs, outer space).

-On the topic of Ryan, he is finishing up his soccer and baseball season.  Another area of Big change this year.  Up until this year we did organized activity to keep him busy and because lots of other kids his age were starting to play sports.  But he didn't really love any of it.  We are so excited to see that change big time this year.  All of a sudden he was playing actual soccer and really having fun.  And baseball was even better, he LOVES going to baseball and practicing baseball all the time with Dad in the backyard.  Maybe we just start kids to young, they need a couple more years to mature, but this spring season was a great success.  Now he wants to try a swim team, wrestling, basketball, and do gymnastics again this summer.  Clearly we can't do it all, but I will let him try to all at some point to see what becomes his favorite.

-  Patrick is  totally your average 3 1/2 year old boy.  Big personality, lots of potty jokes, loves to play in the dirt and with bugs, has a bit of a threenager attitude and temper, and wants to do everything and anything his big brother is doing.  His favorite expression right now is "me too" after every single thing Ryan says.  I want cereal- me too!  I want to go to bed- me too!  I need to go to the bathroom- me too!  Its super cute actually.  He did amazing at school, and his best buddies were the two girls in class.  I hear about Anna every day, his first little crush.  We have caught him a few times wearing tutus at pick up and telling me he wants to be a princess ballerina when he grows up.

- Both boys are OBSESSED with Mike.  Like seriously worship the ground he walks on.  For a while, Patrick was glued to me but all of a sudden he is a self proclaimed Big Kid and Dad is totally the cool one around here.  Its amazing how much they love him.  I do think its a little bit because "absence makes the heart grow fonder"  and Mike has been working very long days and traveling much more than he ever has, so when he is around the boys just can't get enough of him.  Whether is cuddling in bed on the weekends, helping him with the yard, wrestling (lots and lots of wrestling) after dinner, or just relaxing watching movies... its all so much more fun with Dad.  I have a love hate with this dynamic.  It is amazing to watch and so sweet to see how they look up to him.  But I am a bit jealous, I'll admit.  I am stuck being the life coordinator for the whole family, while Mike gets to be super hero.  But in all seriousness, I'll take it.  I love to watch their love for him.

-House projects, an every day conversation around here. This winter we checked off a few more boxes!  The biggest one being that Mike finished out basement!  And it is awesome!  I'll post pictures when I can but it turned out great.  We have an adult hang out space, a kids play room space, and still left lots of storage space for my seasonal things, a workout area, toy overflow, and kitchen overflow.  We are 96% finished.  We are  waiting on counter tops for the bar area, a few new light fixtures, and to finish the ceiling over the play room, but even without those few things, it is a fully usable space. This was a huge project that took over 6 months to complete and had a hefty price tag, but it was worth it.  And as with all projects, the completion of one leads to the need to start a new one.  Now that the toys are in the basement, we have a large living and dining room area that are ready to be renovated.  New floors, light fixtures, furniture, built ins... thats the next big project.  BUT that needs to wait for a little while.  I think we will be living with empty space rooms for the near future.

-We also replaced our roof this year- that is one of those not so glamorous projects. A lot of money, but not a lot to show for it.  People don't come over and say "wow I love what you did with your roof".  But it needed to be done, and we can check that off the must do list too.  Unfortunately it took a chunk of money that could be used for the other things on my wish list.  To help balance it out, Mike did all the landscaping work himself and that is growing in so nicely and adding a lot of life to the front and back of our house, and he is spray painting our worn out shutters to give them a fresh look without spending much money.

-Still on the list of things I dream about doing to the house - a back deck and patio area, putting in a pool (major dream world), living/dining room renovation, kitchen remodel, and master bath remodel. And on a smaller scale, changing all of the door handles and light fixtures throughout the house.

-Last but not least, our summer plans.  This summer our plan is to not have much of a plan.  The boys will go to camp twice a week for 6 weeks to give me a little bit of one on one time with the baby.  But other than that I wanted to be free and flexible to enjoy actually having the summer off from work.  If we get invited to go swim with friends, we can go.  If we feel like having lazy pajama days, we can do that too.  I am looking forward to enjoying this family time.

Will post pictures of the renovations, and the boys, and hopefully our new baby very soon!

Monday, June 12, 2017

The Final Stretch: 37/38 weeks pregnant

I can not believe how fast this pregnancy went.  I spent the first half not really believing I was pregnant and just praying a lot.  Then the second half has been so busy with my new job, Mike's new job, and a crazy schedule with two very active boys, that the nine months pretty much flew by.  I frequently here things like wow I look great, or I am carrying so well... I pretty much contribute this to my non-stop movement this whole pregnancy.  There hasn't been any time to relax and put my feet up, and no time to add on those extra pregnancy pounds.  I can't complain about that.

Generally I feel good.  I am swollen- my rings have been retired to the safe and only certain shoes fit my feet.  I wake up in the morning feeling pretty good.  I have energy and ready to be productive.  Then I hit about 2-4pm and I am tired and sore, and then by 8pm I am officially super pregnant and uncomfortable with lots of pressure all through my low back, hips and down my legs.  I did stop working about a week ago, but managed to fill my extra time playing catch up on all the things I didn't get to do while working.  Plus I am not taking an official "maternity leave" from real estate, so I am still doing a couple hours of work each day for that.

I am full of emotions right now- I'm nervous (whats life going to be like with 3 kids?  How are we going to manage all of these kids?  Will Mike be around to help or is it all going to be on me?) and I am anxious about the actual delivery (Will I be able to have another natural un-medicated delivery?  When will labor start? How is everything going to play out?) and of course excited (We have prayed and hoped for this baby for several years now, so excited to finally meet him).  But I also have a batch of mixed feelings because we are pretty sure this will be our last baby.  I will never say never, and of course we need to see how the next several months plays out before really deciding, but if you asked us now we would probably say we are done making babies.  So that is adding a whole new set of emotions, knowing that this may be my last time ever pregnant.  I love being pregnant and all of the excitement that comes along with it, so its hard for me to wrap my brain around this stage of my life being over.

But I am not going to get to caught up in those thoughts, I need to focus on all positive happy healthy baby and labor vibes, I can think about the future in the future.

Details about this pregnancy-
- They switched me from Lovenox to Heprin which is a twice a day shot.  It hurts.  Like a lot.  My poor tummy is very bruised and battered and sore.  The shots have officially become emotionally and physically draining.
-Heart burn is my enemy.
-I get braxton hicks contractions all day every day.  This is pretty standard pregnancy for me.  They start around 20-25 weeks pregnant and continue and get more intense throughout the weeks.  They are in high gear right now.
-This baby is sitting LOW, but also pretty standard.  He never moved up under my ribs like the other boys did, he just likes hanging out low in my Va Jay Jay.  Most of my pressure and discomfort is in my pelvis, cervix, and shoots down my legs.
-I have been doing lots of yoga, stretching, and trying to get outside for walks as much as possible.  All to help baby find a good position.
-I am loving my midwives.  Its a new group right now, and I love each of them more then the last.  They seem to practice very similar to how I hope to deliver this baby.  I am glad I made the switch.
-People say the STUPIDEST things when they hear I am having a 3rd boy.  Seriously, people have no tact.
-He is a mover, this baby.  He is one of those babies you can see moving in my tummy from the other side of the room.   Every doctor and ultra sound tech I have seen always comments on how much he move.  And he gets nightly hiccups right as I am getting ready for bed every night.
-We did get a chance to set up a nursery for him, we did a cool old airplane theme which I am loving right now.

The boys take on things:
-Ryan is very excited.  He can't wait to be a helper, and already has plan for what he can do each day to be the best big brother.  He tells everyone he sees that his brother will be here soon.
-Patrick has warmed up to the idea of the baby.  He still says "baby should stay inside" and "I don't really want baby to come out yet" but he is coming around.  He likes to feel him kick, and to rub my tummy, and give kisses to "my brudder Thomas".
-Ryan and Patrick have been playing together sooooo well recently.  This could be a great thing or a bad thing.  I hope this continues, and they can be buddies all summer and really enjoy each other while I'm in baby mode.  But I also hope that the addition of a new baby in the house doesn't mess up their great dynamic.  I guess only time will tell.

That's all I can come up with off the top of my head.  Its going to be 95 degrees tomorrow.  I hope to go float in a pool and try to relax as much as I can, while enjoying this final leg of pregnancy.  Next time I blog, hopefully it will be about my wonderful peaceful and easy natural delivery with lots of pictures of my beautiful baby boy :)  All good vibes going on around here!

Sunday, April 9, 2017

Finally Made Some Career Moves

Finding a new job/career has been a frequent blog topic for me.  Its been a couple years that I don't feel excited or motivated by my job, have been searching for better options, weighing out ideas of going back to school.  I know based on our family situation, I have to work, BUT I have the ability to work part time and with a flexible income.  On a personal level, I want to be motivated, have the opportunity to make decent money, and to feel like if I am leaving my kids to go to work and juggling crazy childcare schedules, it better be worth it.  

Going back to school for Occupational Therapy or Counseling was an option, going back to teaching (really never wanted this to happen), going back to working in a salon... all possibilities.  But the one that kept coming back to me and seeming to check off the most boxes in my career goals was Real Estate!  So winner winner, I finally decided to take the leap.  Something hit me in December that I needed to make this change, stop talking about it and actually do it.  I have been interested in real estate for years.  I was jealous when Mike did it a couple of years ago.  It was an attainable goal to get my license without spending a fortune on tuition.  And I really think I could be good at it.  I didn't want to look back a year from now and think, man I really wish I had already made the change.

December, the decisions was made.  January, I took the 2 week intense licensing class and passed my test.  By February I was hired by an amazing group.  And in March I was officially working as a real estate agent.  So far I love it.  I am really excited that I finally made a change and I can see myself doing this and succeeding at this for a long time!  Lets hope I am right :)

Thank you to my wonderful friend Erin, I was able to get in with the Ocean 6 group with RE/MAX.  They are a group of 10 agents that are all super successful and young and work their butts off.  She loves working with them and has been asking me to join the team for a couple years.  I knew I wanted to be part of the team as soon as I met them the first time.  Its a super supportive group, lots of training, everyone backs each other up... perfect opportunity to learn as a new agent.  

I am currently still working for the chiropractor while I am also working real estate.  Its a bit crazy right now, I am working pretty much every day of the week at one of the two jobs (and Mike is starting with a new job that has very long hours, lots of travel, and requires him to be away from home overnight several nights a week- ahh things are a bit stressful lol).  But I know its all important and helping us both make progress towards our goals so we are figuring it out.   The plan is for me to work at the office up until maternity leave, about June 1st.  Then take my official time off, but probably not return to the office after maternity leave.  I can't make that decision officially yet, I need to build the real estate business and make sure its a smart decision for our family, but my goal is to be able to stop the office work and work Real Estate full time.

Ironically, just like when I was pregnant with Patrick 3.5 years ago, its a year of transitions.  New job and new baby!  We never let things get boring in the Taynor House!  

Anyway, wish me luck on my new career venture.  I feel really really good about this decision.  The business career women deep down inside me is motivated to kick butt and make some money for our family!  I have lofty goals, but I think I can hack it.  Now I just need to get my first deal to closing and get this new agent monkey off my back!  

 

Friday, March 31, 2017

Third Trimester Pregnancy Update

I am officially 27 weeks pregnant as of Sunday, that is considered third trimester isn't it??  I can't believe how fast this whole thing is going.  I think I spent the whole first 20 weeks being worried, thinking about my health, babies health, and just praying a healthy pregnancy continued, that I never really sat back and experienced being pregnant.  So now I am 2/3rds done, and just now really feeling pregnant.  Some random facts and happenings.

-  I feel really good right now, I have been calling it the sweet spot of pregnancy.  The headaches and vomiting is finally over.  I look pregnant (not just fat and bloated) but not big enough to be super uncomfortable yet.  I have decent energy and still sleeping okay.  Generally speaking, I feel great and am enjoying this stage of pregnancy.

- Heart burn has kicked in big time again.  This is about par for the course for my pregnancies.

-I am really liking my new midwives I switched too.  There are 5 of them, and I have liked each one more than the last.  They seem super supportive of my natural delivery goals, they are welcoming of me having a doula, and they are very easy to talk to about any questions I have.  I am super glad I finally found a good practice.

- I did officially hire a doula again for this pregnancy and birth.  She is not the same one I used last pregnancy, but another women I have worked with a lot through my job and that I connected with.  We will be having our first official meeting with her soon to start the birth preparation process.  I am really excited about having her.  I think it will be really supportive for me, and really great for Mike too.

-We think we picked a name.  I am 99% sure this baby boy will be Thomas Michael.  We narrowed it down to Thomas or Harrison, but both Ryan and Patrick really seem to be connecting to Thomas and now refer to the baby as Thomas all the time.  It just feels more natural.  But I am not committing to anything yet.

-The shots pretty much stink.  They are getting harder as I get bigger.  I have less skin to grab, so the actual injection is harder to get in my skin.  I am also bruising a lot more and they just sting a lot.  No fun at all.  But hey they seem to be working so I can't complain.

-Ryan is loving everything about my pregnancy and prepping for his baby brother.  He comes in every morning when he wakes up to check on the baby and kiss my stomach.  He can't wait til Sunday's when we can read the new "baby report" on my pregnancy app.  He likes to feel the baby move and has lots of questions.  Its really sweet.  Patrick isn't quite as thrilled, but is warming up to the idea.  He is now excited that there is a baby in my tummy, but doesn't want the baby to actually come out and live with us.

-I plan to keep working til about June 1, and then take the month leading up to baby's arrival off.  I also starting working a new job, so I will balance the two jobs until maternity leave and then figure out the plan after baby is here (see next post about that!)

-I really need to start getting organized for this baby.  I was just thinking today and realizing how much stuff I actually need.  Almost all of my baby gear is old or expired or outdated.  They survived Ryan and Patrick but are now past their prime.  So I need to figure out what I MUST have, what I would LIKE to have, and whats really not needed for baby 3.  I also need to get into the nursery, get the walls painted, decorate, sort through the closet and bins of stuff to see what I actually have.  Right now the room is just a dumping ground of baby stuff.

-And most importantly, I just found out today that the Friendly's Ice Cream by my house delivers!!  Can you believe it?  How did I never know this?  So I am enjoying a pregnant woman's dream come true and eating a huge ice cream Sunday that was delivered to my house on this rainy night :)



Pictures from our little babymoon to Mike's parents house in Florida.  A few days of relaxation and sun.

Saturday, February 11, 2017

Gender Reveal and Pregnancy Update

We decided to do things differently this time around and find out the sex of the baby ahead of time.  This is a new concept for us because I am totally Team Surprise!  I love love love waiting til the baby arrives to find out if its a girl or boy.  There is something so special about that moment for me.  But this time the circumstances were different.  With already having two boys, everyone had a comment about how much they wanted it to be a girl.  Plus if it was a girl, we would need to do a little more preparing, where if it was a boy, he could just jump right into our tribe of boys.  Most importantly, and the reason I think I was persuaded to find out, was because Ryan really wanted to know.  He didn't care if it was a boy or a girl, he just couldn't wait to find out.  He kept saying "you know Mom, you can just take a test and find out, you don't have to wait anymore!"  So we did it, we took the test and found out.

I really didn't want to do the whole gender reveal party.  My emotions have been all over the place, and I didn't think I could handle dealing with everyone else's feelings and emotions as I was processing my own.  But since this is our only time finding out in advance we did want to do something special.  Mike picked the gender reveal balls that explode when they hit something hard, and I picked to do it just the 4 of us (plus a friend that came for video taping purposes).



Gender Reveal Balls from Etsy- Awesome!



I polled everyone ahead of time and we were all on team girl.  Based on how sick I was feeling, how awful my skin looked,  the babies heart rate, gender prediction charts, and how different this pregnancy was from my others... I was 100% team girl.  And it seemed like the whole world agreed with me.  I would walk past people randomly and they would say, "wow you are definitely having a girl, I can just sense it".

Surprise- We were all wrong!  It is a boy!!






I was shocked, legitimately in shock.  I really really really felt like this baby was a girl.  Of course we are excited about having another boy, being a boy mom is the best.  And watching brothers grow up together is really awesome.  And above all, having a healthy pregnancy and baby trumps everything.  But I would be lying if I said that I didn't also have a moment of sadness.  Not at all because we are having a boy, bring on the boys I would take 10 of them, but since we are pretty confident that this is our last baby, I had to mourn the idea of never having a daughter.  The hours after finding out was all excitement and celebration.  Then around 9:30pm it hit me like a ton of bricks that I will never have the daughter that I have dreamed about having my whole life.  The person to share the bond with that I do with my mom.  The daughters wedding to plan or the dance recital to do hair backstage for.  Also getting to see Mike be a father to a girl, and sending them off on Daddy Daughter dates.   Relationships are different between mothers and sons and mothers and daughters (same for fathers with sons vs daughters).  They are each special in their own way.  So I am blessed to have three boys in my life, but also sad not to experience the other side.  I cried for about 24 hours straight.  Which of course made me feel guilty, but an emotion I had to process to move forward with embracing our family.

I am glad I had that moment though, I needed it, because since then I really am back to just being excited.  What an adventure life is going to be with 3 sons!!  I use to be so worried I would never find a guy to love me (back in my sappy single college days) and now look, I will have 4!!  We are soooo blessed, and know that this was the baby God wanted for me and we can't wait to meet HIM!


In other pregnancy news-

I am so happy to be about 20 weeks and finally feeling good.  The first 16-17 weeks was rough.  I was so sick to my stomach every day all day.  I threw up frequently, spent all day gagging at the most random things, couldn't eat anything but bagels, and my I wanted to sleep all the time.  Plus I have the throw up every time I brush my teeth condition I had with the other pregnancies (unfortunately that normally lasts the entire pregnancy).  Luckily that has all slowly faded away and I am feeling back to normal.

The baby's heart rate has been about 160 at each checkup and the ultra sound tech said "wow that is an active baby" (of course he is, he is my son).   I have been measuring exactly a week ahead of my estimated due date, which makes more sense to me based on my ovulation schedule (thanks Turks and Caicos for helping us get pregnant!).  The official date on the doctors records is July 2, but based on my cycle and all the ultra sounds, the better estimated due date is a week earlier June 25.

Ryan has spread the news to the whole world, and can't wait to be Mom's helper when the baby arrives.  He practices every day and tells me all the jobs he will do once baby arrives.  Patrick has finally warmed up to the idea and has stopped saying "No I am the baby" every time someone mentions I am pregnant.  I think by July he will be excited and ready too.

I am starting to prep for actually getting this baby out.  I am going to prenatal yoga more often and recently reaching out to a Doula to work with towards the end of pregnancy and delivery.  We are also starting to plan Baby Boy's nursery, we are going with an antique airplane theme this time around.  Nothing major, just sprucing the room up so it doesn't exactly the same as when it was  Patrick's nursery.  Next on our agenda is to pick a name.  I am so bad at names, especially boy names (I have had Charlotte Elizabeth in the waiting for 6 years now!).  Some maybes are Harrison, Charles, Thomas, Andrew, Alex... who knows.  But I seriously want to decide soon.  I hate having that decision hanging over my head.   I'll keep everyone posted.
Life is good right now.  We are all excited and happy and can't wait to see what life in zone coverage parenting will be like!

We are Pregnant!

This post is long long over due.  But after our struggles this year, I was holding off on posting until we had more answers and were sure things were progressing and baby is healthy!  My last post was mid October, and a lot has happened since then.  Just a week or so after posting I found out I was pregnant again.  Of course my first reaction was one of hope and excitement, but it was very quickly followed by fear and anxiety.  Then within a week a week of getting the positive pregnancy test, we met with the hematologist and finally got some answers as to what was going on with my blood work.

The doctor results were that I did have a mutation of the MTHFR gene and have anticardiolipin syndrome.  As my OB suspected, my levels where high enough to put me at risk for blood clotting, and most likely the clots where leading to the past miscarriages.  The hematologist suspects this is a new condition, not something I had when I was pregnant with the boys.  I have a ton of questions, like why would I suddenly develop a new blood clotting condition, but at this particular moment my bigger concern was what can I do to help keep this pregnancy.

The doctor recommendation is that I need to do daily injections of Lovenox in my stomach every day til 4 weeks after the baby arrives.  This is a blood thinner that is safest for pregnancy, and apparently the common treatment for a condition like this.  I hate shots, and needles, and I knew I wouldn't be able to do the injections to myself... but you gotta do what you gotta do.  That night Mike and I started our daily ritual of him giving me a shot in the tummy every night before bed.  Its not fun, it stings, and its getting harder as my belly gets bigger.  But we do it with no complaints because we know its helping baby.  Thank God for my husband.  This is definitely one of those moments that I appreciate him even more than usual, because he stepped up without any hesitation to give these injections, even though I know its something he is uncomfortable with.

We pretty much told our family and close friends right away that we were in fact pregnant again, and taking it one day at a time.  We were holding off on celebrating, praying a lot, but still hopeful for a healthy baby.  I was kind of stuck in a weird funk.  I wanted to be so excited about being pregnant, to talk about it and plan for baby, but I was so scared to get attached and scared of getting hurt again, that I resisted all urges to just let myself be an excited pregnant momma.  I had a variety of doctors appointments pretty much on a weekly basis for the first few months just to make sure things were progressing.

The week before Christmas, I had a 12 week ultra sound and all the genetic testing blood work, and I had a follow up with the hematologist.  Everything checked out great, so we decided we could officially start spreading the news and more specifically tell the boys that they were going to be big brothers!  On Christmas Eve we told the boys, Ryan was so excited, Patrick not so much.  And then we let them tell all of our friends, family, cousins, as we saw them throughout the holiday week.  It was great to finally get to celebrate the new baby.






In January, at 15 weeks pregnant we did have another scare.  One night as I was getting ready for bed, I started bleeding very heavily.  I have it about and hour to see if it continued and see if I had any other symptoms (based on my OBs recommendation).  About an hour later the blood was still very heavy and I was officially freaked out.  Mike happened to be sick with the flu that night, so I called my mom and off to the ER we went.  At that point I just wanted to hear the babies heart beat, I needed to know baby was safe.  We spent the entire night in the hospital, blood work, ultra sounds, monitoring, and the baby seemed to be doing just fine.  The ER docs were not able to identify the cause of the bleeding, just that it was not a miscarriage or the placenta, THANK GOD!  He sent me home at 5am and told me to see the OB first thing in the morning.

I followed instructions and was in the office about 10 am.  They did another ultra sound and found that I was pooling blood in my cervix, which is why it was bleeding like a heavy period.  Long story short, for some reason my body was not reabsorbing blood the way it should, and it was causing it to pool in my cervix instead.  The remedy,  modified bed rest, stay calm and quiet and relaxed as much as possible, and give myself the chance to heal.  If the blood was reabsorbed, that would be great and we can move forward, if the blood continued to pool, it could lead to early contractions and labor as my body tried to get rid of the extra blood.  So on doctors order, I did just that.  I modified all my activities, asked for extra help from anyone around that could help, and tried to rest and relax as much as possible.  Luckily it worked, and the last week of January we confirmed the issue went away, baby looked great, and I could return to normal activities (as long as I still remembered that yes I am pregnant and yes my body needs to take it easy).

I am now officially 20 weeks pregnant!  Anatomy scan ultra sound looked perfect this week, and I am feeling the 2nd trimester high!  We can not wait to meet this baby in June/July and complete our family!

Next post... finding out the gender!  And other pregnant fun!