The Taynors

The Taynors

Sunday, March 9, 2014

Happy 3rd Birthday, Ryan!

Holy Moly, I have a three year old.  And a wild, crazy, silly 3 year old boy at that.  He gives me the highest of highs every single day, but can also be the source of my total stress and exhaustion.  He keeps me on my toys and I love him so deeply.

Here are some of the highlights and big topics for my big boy:

1.  I'll input the weight/height/and development stats here after tomorrow's pediatrician visit.

2.  Ryan talks a lot!!  If you went back an read my posts from a year ago, I was concerned he would never talk, his speech was delayed, but now that he has gotten the hang of it, he doesn't stop talking.  From the minute he wakes up to the minute he goes asleep he is talking.  He asks a lot of questions and tells us silly stories and sometimes I think he just likes hearing his own voice :)

3.  Speaking of speech, he goes to see a speech therapist once a week.  We started going back in November based on the recommendations of his preschool teachers.  He had the eval and they recommended therapy to help improve his skills and help to battle the drool issue.  Ryan really likes going, but at this point I don't know if I notice a huge change.  He is still difficult to understand, but I would say that his level or sentence structure and putting together thoughts has definitely increased.

4.  On that topic... he still drools.  Ugh!  I can remember asking when he was 3 months old, and 6 months, and at a year old- When is he going to stop drooling?  Well the answer so far is, Never!  I can't tell if its a swallowing issue, a lazy issue, a sensory issue- but he still drools frequently.  Its a point of discussion for the pediatrician tomorrow, what can we do to fix this problem.

5.  Kids say the funniest things- Its true!  Some of my recent favorite expressions that he uses are "Oh man" after anything that doesn't go well.   Then he has his favorite pick up line "Whats your favorite truck?"  and he expects you to have a detailed response (for example: an excavator with a tall boom and a big shover on tracks not tires).  He is also starting to imagine things, so when talking about trucks or boats or houses, he always wants to know the size... so a popular question is "How big is it? Show me with your hands."  We tell Ryan that Patrick will be able to play trucks and blocks and sports with him when he gets to be bigger like him, so now every day Ryan asks "Is he bigger yet?"  almost expecting him to go from baby to big boy over night. Lastly, since he has figured out the concept of parents, he now calls Gigi and Pops and Grandma and Grandpa our parents... for example he won't say "We are going to see Grandma", instead he will say "We are going to see Daddy's parents.   I could come up with a million more, but those are my favs, too cute!

Also, because of the Olympics being on  TV, Ryan and Mike started doing their own creative ice dancing routine.  After the final lift and spin, Ryan will face his audience and say "Ta Da, Thank you Thank you" as he bows several times.  I need to get it on video... super cute.

6.  Ryan's favorite things- Umm Trucks, and more trucks, and all different kids of trucks.  He likes playing with trucks, looking for trucks on the road, building trucks, reading books about trucks, talking about trucks, watching truck shows on TV and the iPad... life is all about trucks right now.  I know more about construction trucks now then I ever have my entire life.  Ryan's favorite is the excavator, mine is the Feller Buncher, and Mike's is the bull dozer.  Everyone has to have their own favorite truck.

Besides trucks, some other interests are boats and dinosaurs.  Just like with trucks, he likes to talk about different kinds of boats, look them up online, generally he gets pretty obsessive on certain topics.

7.  Because of the interest in boats (and whales should be on that list too), he is back to loving baths.  He will on his own, run upstairs, take off all his clothes and yell to us that he is ready for a bath.... and this occurs randomly at any time during the day.  No wonder the poor kids skin is so dry and sensitive.

8.  Segway into his skin issues-  I feel like they are a little bit better this winter.  He is still dry and has some eczema/chapped spots on his face but in comparison to last winter its pretty good.  His ankles and hands and behind his knees are all looking really good.

9.  Favorite day time activities-  Like most kids, Ryan's favorite things to play with can change from week to week, but generally his favorite things to play with are his duplo building blocks, Hess trucks, his train table, and play doh.  Then next on his list would be doing puzzles (like real puzzles, not the shape ones), cooking in his kitchen, coloring, and building with his tools.  He has just recently started pulling out his golf and baseball things again... its like he understands that its almost spring time and golf and baseball are in season.

10.  He is into singing songs.  We listen to "songs" in the car and he sings along, and we catch him singing in bed and singing while he plays.  He is pretty good at remembering all of the words and just singing to pass the time.

11.  We are finally starting to play pretend (I feel like girls do this playing pretend thing much earlier than boys... or maybe it was just not something Ryan did) but all of a sudden the last few weeks Ryan wants to play pretend with us.  Some days we are all dinosaurs and we are chasing each other around the house acting like our dino characters.  He really likes the Paw Patrol show on Nick Jr.  so we play a lot of that.  He is Chase and I am Marshal (and everyone else from the family has a character) and we have to pretend we are that character and go on missions.  He gets mad if I call him Ryan... its Chase and he is a pup!

12.  Lastly his schedule-  I am living off of reading the posts about his schedule from when he was a baby (to use as a guide for Patrick) so even though it is boring, I need to post about it.

Normal day is pretty straight forward...
Wake up between 6:30-7
Breakfast between 8-8:30
Whatever the days activity is from 9-12
Lunch around 12
Nap from 1-3
Play time after nap
Dinner anywhere between 5:30-6:30
Hang out and bath time
Normally in bed around 7:30

This is very general, but we are much more flexible with his routine then we were when he was younger.  He can nap early if we have something in the afternoon, or later if we have a busy morning.  He can go to bed early if he had a crazy day, or stay up much later if we have something planned in the evening.  As long as we generally follow this routine and he still gets a good nap, he is flexible.

Thats it for now!  I do have some behavioral/developmental concerns, but thats a post for a different day... after I talk with the doctor.  Todays post is all for fun.

Birthday party-  We had his birthday at Gymboree and he LOVED IT!  I was surprised how well it went.  Noah, Blake, Brooklynn, Eloise, Mason, Bennett, Emma, Charlie, Angelo, and the babies Patrick, Henry, Briggs, Julia, JJ, and Sophia all came to celebrate.

The theme was trucks (SURPRISE).  Even though we did that for his first birthday, I had to give the kid what he loves.

Here are some pictures of Ryan at three and from the birthday party!

Saturday, March 8, 2014

2 month update- Patrick

This month, Patrick's 2 month birthday and Ryan's 3 years birthday fell on the same day... and surprise surprise, it SNOWED!  It has snowed for all of our special days this year, my baby shower, Patrick's birth, his 1 month, and now for the big birthday.  I have canceled and rescheduled many activities and doctors appointments because of this snow.  Hopefully we are now officially done.

Anyway, 2 months has been great so far.  Just like with Ryan (and with everything else in life) its going soooo fast.  He doesn't seem as squishy newborn any more.  I also feel like he had some big changes from 6-8 weeks.  He doesn't cry as much, he is a little bit more on a routine, he is sleeping better at night.  I feel like he is pretty much right on track as a textbook baby.  Here are some highlights right now:

- He weighs 12.2 lbs and is 23 inches long

- He is still wearing 0-3 or 3 month clothes

-Diapers size 1

-He is still exclusively breast fed (yay for no formula yet) and he will take a bottle of BM on the few occasions I am not there to nurse him.

-  He is very different from Ryan.  He is much calmer during the awake hours, only has crying fits if he is tired or hungry or gassy, he does not spit up much at all, he sleeps well at night, and he likes tummy time for a little while.

-He is similar to Ryan in the fact that he is not a good day time napper.  He does not like to sleep anywhere
at all except my arms.  I have tried it all... the swing, the baby wearing, the rock n play, the car seat, the crib... but he won't nap for longer than 10-15 minutes in any of it.  He ends up waking, crying hysterically until I rock him back to sleep but again will only stay asleep if he stays in my arms. Even when we take a drive, he will fall asleep in the car seat, but as soon as the car stops moving he wakes up. I am really working on this, I feel like its my biggest challenge right now.  It is really hard to have a baby in your arms constantly while taking care of a 3 year old.  I keep attempting to "put him down" for naps... so far no luck.  Ryan was like this until about 4 months when things slowly got better.  I guess I make babies that hate swings :)

-He does have cradle cap, not terrible, but its there.  Fingers crossed for a mild case.

- Big smiles started this month.  He is a happy baby when he is well slept and fed!

-Just this week he started rolling from his belly to his back.  I think its kind of early for this, but Ryan rolled early too.  He has only done it 3 times, but he definitely can do it.  Big milestone!

-Bath time is enjoyable.  He freaks the first minute or two of being put into the water, but then calms down and seems to like the water.

-He started sleeping in his crib at 6 weeks.  It was about a week of transition, but its going well and he is there all night now.

-Vaccines- I needed to make a decision about how we were going to handle vaccines this month.  After lots of research and several conversations with my pediatrician, we have decided on a slow and alternative schedule.  He is getting about half of the vaccines available and will be getting them spread out over the first 2 years instead of getting them all at the same time as infants.  I am comfortable with this decisions because I think he is only getting the ones that are truly serious diseases and he will not be overwhelmed with a huge amount of toxins all at one time.  Its a compromise between protecting him through vaccines and building up a strong immune system naturally.  It pretty much brings him back to getting basically what my generation got as kids back in the early 80's.  

-Our general routine right now... I am trying to follow the EASY model from Baby Whisperer.  I used that guide and the Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child book with Ryan and I really liked the concept and Ryan turned out to be a great healthy sleeper.  So an ideal day looks like this...

Eat, Activity, Sleep. 
7:00 am  Eat, 7:30 Play, Nap from 8:30-10ish.  And then repeat throughout the day.  This is the goal.The times change, but that's the rotation.

We still are not exactly there yet.  He is spread out to eating every 3 hours, but because he is not a good napper, the designated play and sleep time is a little off.  He will play for a little bit, sleep for a little bit, then be up and  cranky for a little bit, maybe dose off again.  Its not really clear cut yet.  I think when the naps improve, we will be on a better routine throughout the day.   It doesn't help that I am also following the schedule of a toddler, so sometimes there routines go against each other and normally Patrick is the one that has to adapt.

Then in the evening I add an extra nursing session because he likes to cluster feed and it helps him get some sleep.  So night time looks like this...

4:00 eat
4:30-5:30 play a little bit and cat nap
5:30 eat again
6:00-7:00 play again and sometimes he doses off a little bit, if he gets a bath its normally now
7:00 start bedtime routine:  change him, swaddle him, nurse again, rock him to sleep
And then he is in his crib by 7:45-8:00pm
Then I stay up until 9:30-10 to pump before going to sleep.  I have about 30 oz of milk in the freezer woohoo!

*  Right now he is sleeping great at night, I don't want to jinx it so I won't even type out what a normal night is, but I will come back in the future to add this part :)