The Taynors

The Taynors

Thursday, April 5, 2018

9 months and on the move

Here we are again for another monthly update-  Thomas is 9 months old!!  Let the first birthday planning begin ahhh!

This month he had two major mile stones- he finally figured out how to go from laying down to sitting AND he learned to crawl.  So he is officially on the move!

Sleep is still pretty bad.  The good news is most nights he sleeps in his crib all night, but he is still in the Rock and Plan for naps.  But he really is still very unsettled.  He eats 2-3 times a night, and cries and fusses a lot.  The other night he was up and inconsolable from 12-2:45am.  We are tired!

Even with the wild nights, he is pretty happy during the day.

We still nurse, A LOT.  But I am cherishing the time since this will likely be the last time I nurse a baby.  Bittersweet.

He loves to dance.  Any song, he bops to the music!

We are still working on solids.  Generally I am doing baby led weaning, but will also give purees a try once in a while depending on whats going on that day.  He is definitely experimenting more, but eating is not his favorite.

We celebrated his first Easter last week and are getting ready to spend a lot of time this spring on the sports field watching his big brothers. 

And for the cuteness...






Wednesday, February 28, 2018

2018 Goals

There is an expression, "do something today that your future self will thank you for" or some kind of variation of that.  Well last January 2017 I had that exact thought and finally did something I had been thinking about and went to school to get my real estate license.  It wasn't a great time- I was still working at the chiropractor, Mike was starting a new job with super demanding hours and travel, I was pregnant and getting ready to be a mom of 3 boys- but I had been thinking about it for a few years and that quote kept coming back to me.  So I did it, I did something that was hard at the time, but the future me would be thankful for.  And the expression is freakin true!   A year later, I can reflect on the hard work and progress I have made and I am SUPER happy and Thankful I finally made the move.

Last year business was slow, a lot of work without a lot of reward.  But it was the building blocks in real estate.  I took the class, passed the test, joined my amazing team, started building leads, did a ton of training seminars and classes, asked a million questions.  I did have one closing and a couple of rentals in the first 6 months of working, but nothing more than that.  Then I took June-August off when Thomas was born (for the most part, I was actually negotiating a deal from the hospital room on the day he was born to try to save a deal from falling through). But I was able to step back and be primarily mom for a couple months.  Then in September I stepped up my game again.  I started putting dedicated hours into working and building new clients.

Well come January, it paid off.  In the first two weeks of the year I got 2 listings (one already sold), and 3 buyers that went under contract.  I now have active buyers, potential new listings, and closings on the calendar!  I am so excited to see the work coming together.  I have big goals for the year, sell 15 homes!  If I am able to accomplish this, or come even close, I will be able to help my family big time financially and take some of the pressure and stress off of us.

I am so happy I made the move a year ago, and I am proud of myself for making big strides in building my business.  But most of all, I love doing it.  I feel like for a long time I knew I needed to work to make money, but I wasn't finding much that motivated me to go out and kick butt.  But I found that in real estate.  I am motivated, I am excited, I am starting to feel confident in my ability, and I love having something of my own and contributing to the family.  Its hard work, I am stressed a LOT, juggling my schedule and the kids schedule is overwhelming... but I feel like its all for a good cause.

So its cheesy, but I am definitely proof behind those words of encouragement to make current changes that your future self with thank you for!

How is my Baby 8 months Old!

Here we are again!  A monthly update... or what seems to be my new norm, an ever other month update.  Thomas is officially 8 months old as of this week, and here are the highlights of his 7 and 8 month happenings.

*Sleep is terrible.  Still not happening, still hates the crib, still wakes frequently, still nurses all night.  Half of it is baby, he needs the extra nursing and the contact and he is just miserable in the openness of the crib.  Part of it is my fault, with the activities of the other kids, balancing bedtimes with all 3, trying not to wake them up in the middle of the night, Mike traveling and away overnight many nights of the week... its been hard to really "sleep train". When Mike is away, or the big kids are sick, anything goes.  Whatever I can do to get him to sleep wins.  I am aware this is an issue but its hard to make a change right now.  Mike is away again this week, but next week he is home for 1 whole week in a row, so I plan to really start working on a sleep routine and at least get him in the crib overnight.

*On the other hand, naps have been good during the day, so that helps big time.  He takes a good morning and afternoon nap, and occasionally a cat nap to hold over til bedtime.  These naps are still in the rock and play, but they give me a mommy break to work so I'll take it.

*This month he has started dancing!  Like totally bopping to the beat.  Super cute.

*We have attempted to start solids and it hasn't gone well.  He really does not like being spoon fed, so we are going to take the Baby Led Weaning approach with him.  So far he seems to like sweet potato fries and these home made teething biscuit things I make.  He is really playing more than eating right now, but at least he will bring them to his mouth occasionally.  If BLW goes well, I will totally stick with it.  I love the idea of him eating what we are eating and not needing to make purees and bring "baby food" around with us.

*He has gotten much more mobile.  No moves towards crawling or cruising or anything like that yet, but he can roll and push forward or backwards to get to what he wants. He loves this freedom.

*Finally at exactly 8 months, he got his first tooth!!  Woo Hoo! and the second is about to pop through. 

*He loves being on the go and watching his brothers.  As long as someone is paying attention to him, or someone is around to chat with him, he is happy.

*Thomas is starting to explore new sounds with his mouth, blowing bubbles, babbling much more.  No real words but new sounds.

*He is going super strong with nursing.  He loves it and will nurse round the clock if I let him.  I did finally implement formal for the occasional bottle because I couldn't keep up with a freezer stash and with a lot of work hours coming up, I needed a back up option.  I would say he still nurses or gets breast milk 98% of the time, but it took the pressure off of worrying about what I would do if I didn't have enough milk in the freezer.  I did a bunch of research and ordered a brand from like Germany (not 100% sure what country, but it is from Europe and goes by their standards) and he took right too it. 

*I am super desperate for a little mommy get away.  I feel like I am running on fumes these days, but until he is sleeping better or nursing less, its impossible.  I hope to plan a weekend getaway with Mike or a girls trip very soon. 

Anyway, he is wonderful.  Such a sweet, happy baby.  Always with a huge smile on his face.   Its going so fast, way faster than with the other two (probably because I am busy with the other two) and I am trying to take a deep breath and enjoy this stage. Its basically my very favorite baby stage!

Here is some cuteness!





Monday, January 15, 2018

Why I Want Another Baby, but Know it Will Not Happen...

I get asked all the time- When are you going to try for that baby girl?  Are you definitely finished now?  Do you think you will have more kids?  It is constant.  And the one thing I can say is I am very conflicted with my answer.  I wish I was one of those moms that "just knew" when their family was complete.  That is confident in knowing I am done having kids.  I was so hopeful to feel that way.  But I don't.  The idea of being done makes me sad.  I still dream about another baby and doing through it all one more time.  I am sad to think that this stage of my life is done and that as Thomas is getting older, I won't ever have that baby again.

Don't get me wrong, I am also excited about parts of the future.  The traveling with older kids, not buying diapers, not being a slave to breastfeeding, working on really building my career.  That all sounds fun and exciting, but it doesn't outweigh the sadness just yet.

But even though I am not convinced our family is complete, I am pretty sure it is.  Because Mike and I are way to logical and calculated to have another.  And mainly because of MONEY.

If I didn't have to work and I could just stay home with the baby.  If we didn't have to stress about the extra financial cost associated with having a baby (Thomas's birth alone cost $10,000 and that is worth good insurance!1).  If our monthly budget had more wiggle room for the extra diapers.  If we could not worry about the extra fees associated with 4 kids playing sports and activities.  If we could still travel and buy 6 plane tickets and the larger suite rooms on all vacations.  If the idea of buying a larger SUV was an option.  If I could afford to hire some help when needed, or have cleaners come to the house to ease the work load.  If college wasn't so darn expensive....if these topics where not an issue, then we would definitely have one more.  The decision really all comes down to money.

So with that decision being made, and knowing we are blessed with 3 beautiful boys, it is time to start getting rid of the baby stuff.  I can sell the gear and donate the clothes.  I can make plans for when the baby is older to do things we have been waiting to do.  I can start working out more and get my body back because for the first time in 7 years I won't be preparing to get pregnant, currently pregnant, nursing, or preparing to get pregnant again :) 

It is bitter sweet.  Getting rid of the baby clothes is heartbreaking.  I have memories of all 3 kids in those outfits.  But it is time.  The silly green bouncy chair was all 3 boys favorite thing to sit and play in as newborns.  I don't want to give it away.  But again, it's time.  So wish me luck as I transition through this stage.  I can tell you one thing, I am enjoying every minute of nursing him, and I cuddle longer in the middle of the night, and I try to spend more time sitting on the floor and playing with him because boy I know it goes fast and I know I'm gonna miss it.


Saturday, January 13, 2018

5 and 6 months of Fun

The 5 and 6 month milestones were soooo exciting, that I just didn't even have enough time to post about them :)

Not really, life just gets busy and before you know it the month is over.  So here is my attempt to write about 5 and 6 months in the life of Thomas before we actually hit 7 months in 2 weeks (I can't believe we are nearing the 7 month mark WTF)!

The big thing that happened at 5 months is he finally started to roll.  He pretty much figured out going from his belly to back and back to belly at the same time.  And once he figured out this cool new skill, he wanted to show it off by rolling all over the place.  He can officially get anywhere he wants by rolling.

At 5 months he also had no sleep patterns yet.  He got a terrible head cold and congestion and was not sleeping, so we moved him back into the rock n play so he was propped up which helped.  Unfortunately it also got him comfy back in the RNP and has lead to lots of crib issues.  In short, at the 5 month mark I would describe him as unpredictable.  Some naps are over an hour and great, some are 29 minutes exactly.  Some nights he goes right to sleep (in the Rock N Play of course) and other nights he cries and fusses for hours.  Some nights he wakes up every hour, and other nights he wakes for one quick feeding and goes back to bed.  Unpredictable.  And very hard to get a babysitter for date night!

At this mark he was still 100% breastfed, no solids or substitutes.  I am waiting on those teeth.

He still remains a happy, go with the flow baby. 

He is starting to practice sitting up by himself, but definitely needs support. 

Then he hit 6 months, which fell the day after Christmas.  6mo old babies are sooo much fun and it was happening during a super fun time of year!  Every where I go people comment on how beautiful of a baby he is.  His smile and eyes just melt right through people.  I can literally just stare at him for hours.  Freakin cute!!!

By 6 months he was sitting well unassisted, and log rolling around. 

Still not teeth!

He is practicing noises but nothing more than uh uh uh uh over and over again. 

He is still breastfed exclusively, but we did introduce some solid foods.  I am going with the Food for Fun concept right now.  He has had peas, then carrots, and then some smushed bananas... all that I made him.  He kind of likes it, but also thinks its kind of weird.  I am not on any kind of regular feeding schedule right now.  If we are home and I have something ready and he seems  interested in the foods we eat, I let him try something.  If we go a few days without solid food, that's okay too.  I also introduced a sippy cup of water.  Right now that is much more play than actual drinking but he really likes it. 

We had a great first Christmas, Santa brought him some fun presents like diapers and glass bottles and a new push car for outside.  Thomas liked the paper more than the gifts of course.  His big brothers are totally in love.  They want to make him laugh and be by him and help  me in anyway they can.  They really are so helpful and so sweet.

He is my little love bug for sure.  He loves to be held and cuddle and make people laugh.  He has these huge chubby thighs that are super ticklish.  He is just amazing.  My only real challenge is the sleep.  It is still not going well.  See above notes.  Not much has changed.  We attempted to crib train again this week for sleeping.... and guess what, he got the stomach virus and threw up crazy amounts.  So back to sleeping in my arms and then the rock n play again because he couldn't be on his flat back.  Anyway, I will try again soon.  As I keep saying, we are in survival  mode.  Whatever gets him and I the most sleep wins.  I know well enough now that everything is just a phase and he won't sleep in the RNP forever. 

I have some great pictures of him, and I promise to post them later.  But for now I am happy with the accomplishment of getting this blog up!

Friday, November 17, 2017

Life in the Taynor House - Fall 2017

I wanted to do a "day in the life" post, but our lives are so different from day to day that it wouldn't really give me  (future me who is looking back to ready these and remember what life was like) a true picture.  So instead I am going to do a highlight real-  this is what is going on in our home right now.

Ryan is 6.5, Patrick is 3.5, Thomas is 4 months, and I will be 35 next week (eek)

-Ryan is in 1st grade and loves it.  He got the BEST teacher that I could have asked for him this year.  He loves math, doesn't quite love site words or spelling yet, but he does love to write his own stories and being read to.  Currently the sentences in his story are rough- most works not spelled correctly and most barely recognizable, but the effort is there and I am encouraging the creativity.  I am one of the class moms with two other moms.  Its a big job I am coming to find out.  But the other women I am doing it with are pros so I am following their lead.  I volunteered for the job because I like to be involved with party planning because of Ryan's food allergies.  And I know he really likes having me be an active role in his class.

-Ryan played soccer and baseball this Fall.  He really liked both but became baseball obsessed! He loves playing it, talking about it, and watching it.  Lucky for us the Yankees had a great season- Aaron Judge rookie season, won the home run derby, hit the most home runs ever by a rookie, and the Yankees were only 1 game away from going to the World Series.  We have had a lot of fun rooting them on this Summer and Fall.

-Ryan is also becoming such an elementary school kid- saying things like "totally!" and "Boys go to college to get more knowledge, girls go to jupiter to get more stupider" and wanted to explain to me what the middle finger means "I promise I won't do it Mom, but what does it mean?"  His favorite words that make him sound so old are quite and often.  "I quite like my sleep" and "i often call out in class". Also his Christmas wish list has gone from lots and lots of toys to only a few things and all technology based- a phone (insert eye roll), a video game headset, xbox one, some lego game that you can play through the system. He walks around the house always pretending to be playing baseball, or kicking the soccer ball, or throwing the football up and catching it.  But he still loves to cuddle, and loves to be read to at bed time, and gives me lots of hugs and love every day.

-Patrick is a 3 year old boy.  If you have ever had a 3 year old boy you know what I mean.  There is a lot of rage, and a lot of cuteness, and a lot of stubborn, and a lot of frustration, and a lot of goofy.  Just a lot of all emotions.  He is developing a personality of his own and his emotions run wild!  But he is sooooo stinkin cute that he knows he can get away with murder.  He is learning to spell his name and finally interested in learning his letters.  He asks a million questions and talks non stop. He says cute things that melt my heart like randomly saying "you are the sweetest mom in the world".  He is rough and aggressive and says inappropriate things.  Potty talk is his favorite conversation. He loves to get dirty and jump in muddy puddles.  Meltdowns come frequently.  Just a normal 3 year old boy!

-Patrick goes to pre-school MWF full days, he play soccer on Saturday mornings, and he goes to visit Grandma and Grandpa on Thursdays most weeks.  He is actually very good at soccer, he has a decent amount of natural talent.  But if he gets frustrated or doesn't think he is doing well, he is quick to quit.  We are working on getting him to build his confidence and keep playing even when its hard.

-I started back to work in Real Estate officially right after school started in September.  I am still on maternity leave for Coombs Chiropractic, and still debating if I will return or not (that decisions needs to be made like last week).  But with real estate I work office hours all day Monday, and half day Wednesday, and then schedule all my other appointments and open houses in the evenings and weekends.  Its been challenging because as I am starting to build up some serious buyers, I need to be available at the drop off the hat.  Finding last minute child care has been the hardest part.  This week for example, Mike is traveling for work and I had a client who needed to see homes two nights in a row.  So I reached out to every babysitter I knew to try to get coverage for an hour each night.  And getting a babysitter for 3 kids at dinner time during a week night is not easy.  They are entering into my home during the most chaotic time of day.  But both nights we made it work.  Then I do my computer work and get caught up on contacts at night after the kids are in bed.  I am really enjoying the job and can see a great career in real estate, but right now I just need to find my grove on how to handle child care when I need to be out of the house.

- I am also still doing wedding hair, can't give it up the money is too good.  And I like to do it when life isn't as crazy as it is right now.  2017 was pretty slow with the pregnancy and new baby, but I am already booking lots of weddings for 2018.  I am excited because we can use the boost in extra income!

-Mike has been in this new position since February and its going well, he loves the job, but its WAY more travel then we anticipated.  Just this past month for example he was away for 16 our of 30 nights.  And even when he is working at his regular office, the hours are super long.  He leaves before the kids get up and gets home just in time to kiss them goodnight.  This has been by far our hardest adjustment to having a new baby at home, is the addition of his crazy work schedule.  I don't have the second person to back me up.  When two kids need to be in two different places, I need to figure it out alone.  At dinner time when kids are cranky and needy, I'm on my own putting food on the table and trying to meet their needs.  When Ryan has a baseball game or soccer practice, I am taking all 3 kids with me. So its hard.  I am tired.  And Mike misses his family.  We know this isn't a long term job position, we just need to get through this step on the career ladder, but I am not gonna lie, I am ready for a change.

-Our weekends have entered the crazy zone.  A Saturday normally includes 2 soccer games, a baseball game,  and a kids birthday party. Sundays I try to work an open house, or we have a family event, or we try to do something as a family since its the only time we are all home together.  September and October were nutso.  I am kind of looking forward to the winter weather because we will get a break from sports and less outdoor activities... we can hibernate as a family a little bit (or at least thats what I am hoping for).

-Thomas has been a pretty typical easy 3rd child.  He just tags along in all that we do.  He has already been on rainy soccer fields, and spent all day in and out of the car.  He goes to parties and play dates and meetings at the school.  He has even been on some home showings with me.  Pretty much wherever I go, he goes.  And luckily right now he goes with the flow and always makes people smile wherever we go.  

- A general normal day- I am up with Thomas in and out of sleep from 5am-7am.  Mike leaves for work sometime in that time frame.  The boys get up by 7 and we start our get ready for school routine.  We all leave at 8:45 to drop Patrick off at school, then I swing around and drop Ryan off at school.  Then depending on the day I either go to work, run errands, clean the house, catch up on the ever mounting to-do list until about 2:30.  Pick Patrick up at 3:00.  Get home to get Ryan off the bus at 4:15.  Eat dinner between 4:30-5.  Go to whatever the after school activity is at 5:30-6:30/7.  Home for bath, snack, bedtime.  Mike gets home at bedtime.  We get all kids settled by 8pm (on a good night).  Then 8-10pm catch up on adult conversation, computer work, clean up from the day, prep lunches for the next day, and maybe spend 5 minutes on the couch with TV before we go to bed.  Then start it all over again the next day. 

-My days and thoughts revolve around sleep.  Did he nap? Will he nap? When will he wake up? Is he asleep for the night? How long do i have before next wake up?  4 month olds are exhausting.

- Lots of fun events the past couple months.  My Dad's 60th birthday at the race track.  The twins 4th birthday, Thomas's baptism, Micky's 60th birthday.  Michelle is due with her baby in December and we recently found out Matt and Laura are expecting their first in April.  We visited our NC friends and halloween festivities are this week.  We just booked our Disney vacation for April, this week is the 180  day mark to make dining reservations.  Lots of great stuff!

-The basement project is 99% finished!  Woo hoo!  And we are starting to use it to entertain.  People hung out down there during the baptism because it was a million degrees out.  We had new friends from Ryan's baseball team come over for a football Sunday a few weeks ago.  We are planning a Frankie fight night/Christmas party for the beginning of December.  Its a great space and I am sooooo happy the project is finally complete. 

I think that sums up the highlights of our world right now.  Its crazy but I know I'll miss it one day.

Friday, October 27, 2017

4 months Update for Tommy T

Hey hey, here we are again for another monthly update on Tommy T (as you can see from the title the nickname is sticking in our family, not sure how I feel about it).  Anyway it is not a huge month to report on, a lot of the same as last month, just some added alertness and trying to do new things.

-He is currently 15 lbs

-Still 100% breast fed.  Some days are good, some days are hard.  He wiggles and squirms so much while eating, and he eats super fast.  So my nursing sessions are not relaxing and cuddly.  But he is gaining weight well, and is perfectly heatlhy so we will continue on our nursing journey.

- His routine is finally starting to spread out and he is eating closer to every 3 hours.  I still don't watch the clock, we just go with the Eat Activity Sleep cycle.  But his activity time is longer which leads to longer time between feeds. 

-Naps still SUCK.  I can't wait (please please please) for this to change.  They are still 30 minute cat naps every time.  Last week we were traveling and visiting friends so I just let him sleep wherever we were.  But since we have been home I am starting to "nap train".  Every nap is in his room, blinds closed, pre-nap routine... anything to start moving towards a true nap time and hopefully a longer nap.  Both he and I will be happier when this happens. 

-Night time sleep also SUCKS right now.  Its hard to get him to actually fall asleep.  Up to an hour of going up and down the stairs to help get him settled.  Then his wake ups vary every night- could be 11:30pm, or midnight, or 2:30, or 4 or 5 or all of the above.  I never know what I am going to get.  And sometimes he goes right back to sleep after a quick feed, and sometimes he is up and fussy for 30-45 minutes after.  He seems to be very inconsistent and its making mommy tired!

-Last month he found his hands, this month he found his feet!  He also really wants to be able to sit up.  If he is in the laying down position, he will try to pull himself up to sitting. 

-Still no rolling, and he doesn't really try.  Occasionally you see him roll to his side, but quickly gives up.  The other boys were both early rollers, so this is new to me.

-This month he also started to laugh.  It doesn't happen often, and when he does laugh it kind of scares him, Like what the heck was that noise.  But the smiles are all day every day. 

-We went to visit our NC friends last week, so it was his first plane ride.  He did great.  A few tears at take off but otherwise slept most of the time.  And in general he was super happy with all of our traveling around while down there.  It was super easy to travel with only one baby!  Mark that in the category of things that are easy now that I have three kids that would have been so sary and hard with my first.  I would never ever have flown with Ryan at 4 months old, and if I had to it would have been super stressful.  With Thomas it seemed like a relaxing vacation to only be taking care of one baby.


That's about it for our little stinky man.  Time sure is flying by!  We love him to pieces and so do the boys!